First, the disclaimer: No, this was NOT done a Catholic Church, though, like me, most Priests will now be dreading the phone calls from brides, asking if they would be able to do that at their wedding. The answer is "no".
Now I can hear the responses, "But why not, Father? Isn't a wedding about joy and happiness and dancing and fun and the chicken dance, the electric slide, the Thriller dance, the Summer Lovin' dance, and drunken friends lip synching 'Paradise By The Dashboard Light'?" [insert here some version of the pipedream that, if we allowed such stuff, young people would flock to churches like a shoppers hit the mall on the day after Thanksgiving]
Yes, a wedding is about joy and happiness. But not so much about "the moment" right now, but the whole picture: what has led up to it and what will follow afterwards. Too many weddings today are all about the glitz and flashes in the pan for a few hours, then everyone thinks it's "life back to normal" when the flowers die, the tuxes goes back to the rental place, and the dress gets professionally boxed (I won't tell you what happened to the food).
That's exactly what the Church says NOT to fall into the trap of thinking. That's why the Church asks couples to do some sort of wedding prep (also known as Engaged Encounter, Pre-Cana, God's Plan for You, Theology of the Body, etc.). "But, Father (the voice says again), couples don't have time for such things nowadays; everyone is so busy." OK, let me ask you this: How many hours do you think this wedding party rehearsed to get five minutes of dancing to go smoothly? How many couples soon to be married are, as you are reading this, calling and texting their ushers and bridesmaids, trying to do this same thing at their weddings, determined to give as many hours as it takes to put on a show? Now, the bigger question: If they'll spend hours rehearsing for five minutes, how many hours of marriage preparation do you think is proper if they want years of married life to go smoothly? People invest dozens of hours and thousands of dollars on the wedding day itself: hair and nails and dresses and tuxedos and flowers and limos and food and music and the cake and pictures and video, etc. But how much time and effort do they invest in the day after the wedding? and the day after that? and the day after that? I love to tell couples who come to me to prepare for marriage that the Church is the only entity that cares about how things go after the wedding day. 99% of everything else: caterer, limo driver, dressmaker, tux renter, hairdresser and barber, DJ, florist, etc., are all only concerned with the wedding day itself. They will (for a fee) make everything perfect for a few hours, and then they move on to their next customer; the Church is the only one who wants a couple's married life after the wedding to be just as perfect as the wedding day itself.
One of the comments on one of the YouTube versions of this video opines, "On their 50th anniversary, this will make a great big screen video and cause many hearts to smile." But see, that's the problem! Marriage is not about looking at one day in the past when everything was perfect; It's about living it day in and day out, whether it is the day of the wedding or ten, twenty five, or fifty years later. It's not about doing the dance once and doing it well; it's about doing the dance over and over again every day, whether you're happy or sad, whether you're tired or wired, whether you're bored or busy. It's about doin' the dance when one kid has to be at piano practice and the other kid just remembered to tell you there's a bake sale tomorrow and he signed you up to bring in cupcakes. It's about doin' the dance when the choice comes down to a vacation at Disney or replacing the furnace. And, yes, it's about doin' the dance when your kid gets an "A" on their math final or when the wedding anniversary comes around.
There, I feel better [exhale].